Who taught you how to resolve conflict? The answer for most is both no one and everyone. We learn from watching and observing. Usually what we watch and observe from a young age is not healthy conflict resolution. Media plays a huge role as the #1 influencer of kids over parents and the church in society today. Now Rambo, and Judge Judy are our guides. Tell me that isn't scary. Here is a few thoughts when considering conflict that Rambo might not be teaching.
*It Requires emotional grit.
The ability to remain in the conversation when it feels your heart is being attacked.
*Emotional vulnerability. Risk.
Leaning that to hear someone else's heart you must be willing to lead with yours.
*Honoring your heart and honoring theirs. Both in mind.
Realizing it is not a battle to win but an agreement to find.
*A heart to hear as well as be heard/ to understand and be understood.
A willingness to listen first and lead with questions without making to many assumptions.
Here is a scripture that may help: "Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit, but in humility consider others better than yourselves." Philippians 2:3
That verse lived out has the potential to see the lost art found again.
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